Anger is a natural healthy response to a perceived threat, either to you or to that which you hold dear. Problems only arise with anger if it isn’t dealt with in a healthy manner.
Anger is powerful – think volcano, earthquake, whirlwind, tidal wave. Imagine similar forces arising in your own body when something happens to enrage you, anger you, frustrate or annoy you. Unleashing such forces could be damaging to the people or environment around you. However, the energy it takes to hold back these erupting forces can be deeply destructive to health and well being too.
Holding back anger is exhausting, especially if you have been doing this for a long time, maybe for years. Some of the symptoms that may result from pent-up anger are; migraines, cold sores, stiff or painful muscles and joints, a grey complexion, spots and rashes, insomnia, restlessness, and bowel problems. People who never allow themselves to express anger are often tired, irritable or even depressed.
It can be difficult to change this pattern if there is an underlying fear of the consequences of your anger coming out. What if you lost your job or your friends? In an abusive relationship, would they actually hit you, throw you out of your home, divorce you or cut off their financial support, if you spoke up in anger? So how do you deal with anger safely and effectively?
The first step is to build your resources and strengths. At Pathway Balancing this can be achieved through either craniosacral therapy or kinesiology. Craniosacral therapy enables the body to soften its emotional armouring – the tension and hardness that builds up through holding back or defending yourself, in the face of anger. Kinesiology uses Touch For Health reflex points to allow circulation of all the body’s energies to improve and balance out.
The next step is to devise a healthy strategy for dealing with the anger you are facing. This might include talking things through with your practitioner, taking remedies such as the Bach Flower formulas or setting specific goals to change things for the future.
Finally, you need to take action and turn that energy into a force for healing, change, productivity and new beginnings. Many new and wonderful changes being to occur once anger is released and expressed as personal power, perhaps as ‘righteous anger’.
Some of the changes resulting from dealing with anger using Pathway Balancing have been: getting up earlier in the morning; less desire for unhealthy foods, drinks, or TV programs; earning and saving more money; freedom from oppressive relationships; new fulfilment in everyday work; feeling confident and more relaxed.
Healthy anger is about choices. That natural power that arises within you can be used to: walk away; look someone in the eye and calmly, compassionately tell them you are angry and hurt; hold your ground when intimidated; transform your home, your appearance; even to ultimately create a whole new, better way of life!
Dealing with anger effectively is one of the most powerful choices you can make for your life today.
Corrina.
